He wasn’t trying to get in touch, or hurling himself on the floor begging me for mercy. Years ago when I broke up with my ex, even though it was me that ended it and despite my long list of reasons, I hated that he wasn’t hunting me down to say he missed me. Don’t they care about me? Didn’t I mean something to them? Don’t they miss me? Am I so easy to replace? If they haven’t changed (or we think they have with someone else) or we ultimately don’t end up hearing from them, it’s felt like a blow to our self-esteem. If they’ve moved on and we haven’t, it will eat away at us. We secretly wonder if they’ll show up over the next week or so. We look for signs of life from them on Facebook and see that they’re moving on or that they appear happier than we are. Or we refresh our email and check our junk box, and there’s no email. Our phone beeps, and there’s no text message. At this time of year though, that urge increases as the post arrives and there’s no card. We like to feel that we meant something, that we were important, “missable” etc. No matter what time of year it is, it’s difficult post-breakup, especially when we wonder whether someone cares about us, but times of the year like Valentine’s and Christmas/The Holidays are tough. Tags: assclowns, Facebook and Breakups, getting back together, getting over a breakup, grieving the loss of your relationship, The No Contact Rule
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